May is Mental Health Awareness month, which means a heightened focus on ways to normalize these challenges and reduce stigma surrounding treatment. Statistics tell us that 1 in 5 adults will have a mental health issue in their lifetime. Think about that 20% when you are in a classroom, work meeting, or social event, as our mental health plays a huge role in our lives and can impact the way we move through our days. This year’s Mental Health Awareness month aims to provide more support and care to promote wellness, early intervention, and prolonged quality of life. The first step in building awareness is to open lines of communication. You can show your support today by starting a conversation about mental health and giving your friends, coworkers and loved ones a safe space to talk.
There are a few basic guidelines to follow when having conversations about mental health. It is essential to be judgment-free and keep in mind that what this person is experiencing is their “normal.” If you are talking to a friend or family, remember that the information they are disclosing to you does not change who they are. They are still the same person you know and love, but they allow you into their personal lives by sharing their challenges and stories. It is ok not to understand everything they say and share with you, but asking non-judgmental questions and educating yourself more on the topic can maintain a safe and trusting relationship.
Perhaps the most important rule of having this conversation (or any conversation) is to ensure that you are listening and reflecting on the words being said. Make sure your body language is welcoming, minimize distractions like cell phones and music, and be present with eye contact. These actions will help ensure the person you’re talking with feels safe and important. Listening to what they have to say and reflecting by restating what you heard to clarify and using open-ended sentences to further the conversation can lead to meaningful conversation. Try to avoid using “yes” or “no” questions as they tend to end a conversation quicker and not allow for deeper expression of feelings. Avoid turning the conversation back to you by making statements such as, “I know how you feel,” or by sharing your own stories. While intentions to build rapport and deeper connection may be at the core, statements that compare challenges often result in the opposite effect and may cause the person sharing to shut down and avoid further disclosure.
Healthy boundaries are important when sensitive topics are discussed. Unless you are a licensed professional, avoid giving opinions on diagnosis or treatment methods. Most importantly, if someone mentions wanting to harm themselves or someone else, make a call to a crisis hotline in your area or call 911.
During this Mental Health Awareness month, make it a goal to connect with someone in your life to discuss mental health and take the time to really listen. Whether you are just giving space for someone to talk and feel safe or spreading resources and advocating, you are making an impact and supporting a cause that will affect millions of people.